See Him Clearly: Why His Worst Tells You More Than His Best
We all want to fall in love with someone who feels like sunshine. Someone who laughs with us over coffee, holds our hand on walks, and says all the right things on a quiet night when the world feels peaceful. And in those moments, it’s tempting to decide, ‘He’s the one’.
But here’s the truth every high-value woman must hold close to her heart:
You don’t live with his best. You live with his patterns.
And if you want a true 10/10 life partner, the kind who builds a life with you, not just around you—you must learn to see him clearly, not just kindly.
Not long ago, I saw something that said:
‘Stop looking for the best in the men you’re dating, and start observing their worst. That’s the part you’ll need to live with.’
It stopped me in my tracks. Because it’s true.
His best behavior might feel magical; but it’s his worst that tells you everything.
Grace with Discernment
Let’s be clear: every man (and woman) has flaws. A 10/10 partner is not perfect. He will have off days, insecurities, and stress.
But here’s what sets him apart:
• He doesn’t punish you for his moods.
• He doesn’t make you feel small when he’s overwhelmed.
• He owns his behavior, even when it’s uncomfortable.
• He returns to repair; not just with flowers, but with emotional accountability.
In his worst moments, a 10/10 man still respects the relationship.
And that, my darling, is everything.
Questions to Ask Yourself
• When he’s frustrated, does he go quiet—or does he get cruel?
• When I express a need, does he hear me—or defend himself?
• Can I breathe around his anger—or do I shrink in silence?
• Does his worst make me feel like I’m unsafe or unwanted?
Because his worst… is what you’ll meet in the middle of the night, during a disagreement, after a stressful day, or in moments when you need him most.
What You Deserve
You deserve love that feels emotionally safe.
You deserve a man who keeps his heart open when things are hard.
You deserve a relationship where repair is expected, not begged for.
Please don’t fall in love with potential. Fall in love with a man who has done his work, and is willing to keep doing it, with you, not against you.
At Love Principles…
We teach women how to stop second-guessing themselves and start trusting what they see. We believe that emotional safety, self-worth, and discernment are the foundation of lasting love.
Because when you lead with love and standards, the right man will rise to meet you there.
With love, Sonia
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